Warning Signs That the Man You Just Met Is Not Appropriate as Friend or Associate for Yourself

The following are 20 questions you should ask yourself whenever you meet a male adult person for the first time:

(1) Does he give any indication that he has a felony-conviction criminal record?

(1a) Does he pursue any conduct in your presence that you believe or suspect to have been possibly or allegedly illegal on his part. Does he order an alcoholic beverage from a bartender in your presence, and then later state to you that he himself is age 20 or age 19, prompting you to suddenly recall that state law in Texas prohibits the sale of alcohol to anyone under age 21.

(2) Does he give any indication in your presence that in the last 12-month period he has consumed marijuana, a so-called "marijuana brownie," cocaine, heroin, or any other illicit drug on at least one occasion?

(2a) Does he indicate to you during your first-ever meeting with him that he is addicted to pursuing some activity that might be morally compromising to himself? Does he volunteer to you, for instance, that "I (the first-time acquaintance of yours) travel to Las Vegas, Nevada, every chance I get, since I love to gamble there." Does he also volunteer to you that "even though she rejected me, I am continuing to make phone calls to her at all hours of the day, and I knock at her front door on a frequent basis. I'm hoping that she'll eventually give in to my demands, since I'm someone who doesn't take 'no' for an answer. When I want someone, I won't stop harassing them until they agree to my demands!"

(3) Does he make conflicting statements to you that indicate that he is a frequent liar or pathological liar?

(4) Does he physically grab or strike another person in your presence, or verbalize within earshot of you his cited desire to physically attack or harm anyone?

(5) Does he appear to not be responding directly to what you are saying to him, and instead appears to be giving you a "spiel" or "rehearsed monologue" of some type that, you sense, he may have given in similar form to hundreds of other persons during a first-time meeting with them?

(6) Do the terms or words 'shyster', 'con artist,' 'bully', 'thief,' 'Mafia', 'thug', 'criminal', 'very slick,' 'shallow', 'very superficial', 'phony,' 'artificial', 'shady character', 'unsavory', 'illicit', 'cruel', 'callous', 'mentally cruel', 'sadistic', 'liar,' 'Sugar Daddy', 'sadomasochist', 'slyly manipulative,' 'manipulator', 'power-crazed', 'unethical', 'dishonest', 'ruthless', 'deceitful', 'egomaniacal', 'arrogant', 'narcissistic', 'psychopath', 'selfish', or 'domineering' ever pop into your head when you speak with him in person during your first-time meeting with him?

(7) Does he make at least one statement to you indicating that he opposes law-enforcement or opposes obedience of the law in any cited context, and that he himself dislikes police officers?

(8) Does he give any indication in your presence that he consumes tobacco cigarettes?

(9) Does he express exasperation or significant impatience or anger at any time during your first-time meeting with him?

(10) Does he impolitely disagree with opinions of your own that you verbalize to him, prompting you to wonder whether he might seek to censor you, if he were somehow given the opportunity to inflict censorship on yourself?

(10a) Do you get the impression that he would like to be Dictator of the Universe, if he could hold that ultra-powerful position?

(10b) Does he never make any statement to you about his having any significant point of agreement with you about anything, and does he fail to cite any personality trait of yours, or other trait of yours, such as your intellect, or any conduct of yours he directly observes during your meeting, that he regards as being admirable or impressive or noble or kind or very fine.

(11) Does he never once smile at you at any time during your first-time meeting with himself?

(11a) Do you find that you yourself never smile or chuckle delightedly during your first-time meeting with him?

(12) Does he verbalize any profane or obscene language during your first-time meeting with him?

(13) Does he stand closer to you than you would regard as appropriate during a first-time meeting with a new acquaintance?

(14) Does he pat you on your back, physically touch your shoulder, physically touch your body, pinch you anywhere on your body, push you, grab you, or shove you in any way during your first-time meeting with him?

(15) Does he verbalize criticism of yourself during your first-time meeting with him?

(16) Does he appear to have extensive tattooing on his own body, so much so that you note to yourself that he appears to be a human junkyard or unsightly walking billboard devoted to the apparent theme of self-hatred?

(17) Does something about his demeanor or style of speaking or presence make you feel uncomfortable or nervous or elicit a wince of revulsion from you that you sense to not primarily be revulsion toward his unattractive or homely physical appearance?

(18) Does he wear a beard or mustache on his face?

(19) Does that individual initially remind you of another man whom you have previously encountered, and who had himself triggered a rejection of himself by yourself?

(20) If you could summarize in a nutshell what this first-time male adult acquaintance has cited to you as his leading aspirations in life, would they be "having sex," "owning lots of money," "owning fancy cars," "owning lots of material goods", "having lots of power", "seeking to toy with other human beings', "living dangerously," or "drinking lots of alcohol"?

If the answer to any of these 20 questions is "yes," this could be an indication that the adult man you just met might possibly be incompatible with you as a prospective new acquaintance, a prospective new friend, or a prospective professional associate of yours.