In Defense of a Pro-Masculine-Male Heterophilia

Among the questions I get asked the most often in Austin, Texas, Travis County, Texas, and Williamson County, Texas, throughout each year of my 21st Century life can be paraphrased as follows:

"Why is it that you, John Kevin McMillan of Austin, identify with, favor, and are more humanly receptive toward, a higher percentage of all of the heterosexual adult men of Austin, of Texas, and of the United States as being prospective or actual friends or friendly acquaintances or professional associates or roommates or housemates or coreligionists of yours, than of all other comparable male adult subpopulations?"

In response to that all-too-frequent question that I get asked all too often in Austin, I would point out that I identify with, and I of course also prefer to associate with, adult men who are:

---very opposed to anonymous communications, fraudulent communications; criminal mischief, and pranksterism, many of the anonymous communications and pranks perpetrated on American citizens being very unwanted by them or injurious to them, and tantamount to acts of terroristic violence against them in that way;
---consistently law-abiding and privacy-rights-respectful (non-stalking, for instance) and consistently civil, and who keep their hands to themselves in involvements with others that are regarded as being platonic (non-sexual, in other words) involvements for themselves and the other persons;
---admirably vigilant, so much so that they have the courage and integrity to contact a law-enforcement agency and report instances of posssible illegal conduct that they have observed, even if they themselves are not directly victimized by any such illegal conduct, since they honorably refuse to be guilty of COMPLICITY IN CRIME;
---morally and aesthetically straight (consistently honest and conscientious and empathetic, for instance) in human identity;
---at least as good-looking and youthful and medically healthy and disease-free and psychologically healthy and philosophically-minded and polite as myself, John Kevin McMillan of Austin;
---believers in the human capacity for the platonically sublime, including through smiles that are sincerely warm and people-friendly, and that are refreshingly lacking in the predatory rapacity toward other human beings that is often associated with what is sometimes identified as "cruising."
---refusing to directly participate in physical beating or physical whipping of any romantic or sex partner of themselves, or to permit any romantic or sex partner of themselves (or anyone else) to physically beat or physically whip themselves;
---dismayed by sadomasochism or S&M, the honorable gentlemen I agree to myself be asociated with being englightened gentlemen noted for a straightforward, people-friendly and humane style, by contrast;
---dismayed by the so-called "Sugar Daddies," or notorious older persons of financial wealth who ruthlessly attempt to exploit the financial vulnerability of adult younger persons (or youths, even) by subjecting the latter individuals to bribery or extortionism aimed at compelling them to have a "romantic" or sexual relationship of some type, or a compelled-speech relationship of "compelled-career" or defacto indentured servantship of some type, with that sadistic older person.
---protective of the personal medical health of other individuals, regardless of whether those individuals are complete strangers to such gentlemen, through a variety of logical actions pursued by such gentlemen that underscore the conscientious style of such gentlemen;
---dismayed by "lifestyles" that on a year-round basis are centered on a series of one-night or one-hour stands featuring frequent anonymous sexual involvements or indiscriminate sex with complete strangers or first-time acquaintances.
---dismayed by any and all houses of prostitution and commercial sex parlors or "bathhouses" featuring sex in a public place between and among strangers, and also dismayed by the nefarious and injurious activities of paid sexual prostitutes, regardless of the gender or sexual identity of the prostitute or house of prostitution.
---dismayed by any form of sexual activity occurring in a public place, regardless of whether that public place is a public restroom or a public municipal park or some other public place.
---exhibiting a high level of empathy toward persons of a wide variety of backgrounds;
---fully supportive of the Constitutional rights of Freedom of Speech, Freedom of Religion, and Freedom of Strictly-Mutual-Consent Association, and privacy rights, that should be enjoyed by any and all American citizens;
---dismayed and appalled by the repressive conduct of "subcultures" or "communities" or "civic groups" or "political groups" that or who attempt to censor the stated beliefs and opinions of individuals whose beliefs happen to be different from or incompatible with their own;
---fully supportive of the legal and Constitutional right of any American citizen to in a civil and law-abiding manner criticize or deplore a cited gay media company; a cited gay group; a cited gay activist; a cited adult person who happens to be gay, homosexual, bisexual, lesbian, transvestite, effeminate adult male or transsexual, for that matter, in sexual or gender identity per se; the gay subculture; the gay community; the lesbian subculture; the transsexual subculture; the bisexual subculture, etc., in any context, it being the case that any and all such civilly-worded and law-abiding speech by any such critic of any such individual or entity is Constitutionally and legally protected in full in a democratic nation such as the United States of America;
---fully honorable about acknowledging the legal right of another person to reject oneself without ever again being contacted by oneself at any time, unless in the case of a civilly-worded legal follow-up letter clarifying that the rejection and terms of that rejection were of course mutually applicable in nature;
---consistently friendly and cheerful and polite and good-humored and consistently genial or congenial toward a wide range of people;
---permanently and year-round illicit-drug-free at all times, in the absence of any previous addiction to any illicit drug;
---gentlemen who, like oneself in that very important way, have no prior or current addiction to either alcohol or tobacco products;
---permanently tobacco-free at all times, it being the case that adult men who completely abstain from tobacco products exhibit a self-love and self-esteem and devotion to hygiene and personal medical health in themselves that is much appreciated, and that adult men who refrain from smoking also have more pleasant voices as a result, the contrast their melodious voices present to smokers' scratchy and raspy voices being quite dramatic in nature;
---facially cleanshaven, and presenting an open and honest facial expression in which they are not hiding behind facial hair in any way;
---understandably repulsed by facial hair, facial hair on adult men being among the leading sources of unsightliness in human beings and an unhygienic source of germ-spreading and disease-spreading that's a public-health issue as well;
---wearing no jewelry on their own body, and particularly no nose rings or tongue rings or gaudy jewelry;
---wearing no tattoos or virtually no tattoos on their own body, and thereby exhibiting pride in the natural appearance of the body they were born with;
---politely aggressive (as distinct from passive, passive-aggressive, militant, or abrasive);
---medically youthful and as good-looking or handsome, and having a personal appearance that is naturally smile-inducing and felicitous;
---either permanently alcohol-free on a year-round basis or, at least, show consistent restraint with any consumption of drinking alcohol that they might ever pursue;
---hygienic and medically healthy, they being gentlemen exhibiting a devotion to taking good care of themselves throughout their lives;
---so conscientious that they either are not a member of any high-risk group for the HIV virus or for AIDS, or, alternatively, they are admirably conscientious gentlemen who diligently get tested every six months for the HIV virus, using their reliable legal name and birhtdate, with those admirable gentlemen insisting on being provided with a reliable, certified, medical-test result on each such testing that he can then present to any prospective dating partner or to any employer of that conscientious gentleman of valor;
---fully supportive of criminal-law prosecution of, and lawsuits being filed against, any person who infects another person with the often-fatal HIV virus, or who who infects another person with a permanently injurious medical problem (such as herpes, for instance).
---talented in a wide variety of sports, and supportive of the ideal of the "Scholar Athlete";
---consistently clean-talking and gentlemanly;
---possessive of a philanthropic and clean (as distinct from cynical and X-rated) sense of humor;
---noteworthy for their absence of malice toward others, and for their strong disagreement with the viciously vindictive style exhibited by all too many Americans of today;
---capable of congenial platonic relationships with persons of a wide variety of backgrounds;
---fully appreciative of the philosophy and outlook and worldview that human identity is NOT primarily sexual in nature, and that 99 percent of all human relationships in life are, in fact, non-sexual or platonic in nature;
---exhibiting a nice and felicitous voice modulation and vocal depth, a voice modulation that does underscore a Freedom of Speech-related choice they made to eschew monotonicism or faked shrill-voicedness;
----interested in helping to comprehensively and generously address the needs of youths and adult younger persons, both in this generation and in all future generations, and exhibiting a fatherly or avuncular or brotherly devotion to all children and the vast majority of all persons significantly younger than oneself in age, without any "quid pro quo" being established or conveyed through that generosity toward younger persons;
----interested in helping to comprehensively address the needs of as many biological women and biological girls as possible;
----appreciative in a philanthropic manner toward a wide variety of biological women and girls;
---interested in helping to address the broader needs of their own city or town or rural area or county or state or nation or world.