Warning Signs of a Law-Breaking "Pedophile," Sexual Predator & Child Molester: PROFILE OF A POSSIBLE OR POTENTIAL PEDERAST

When you encounter an adult man who apparently exhibits keen interest in your child, you should ask yourself numerous questions that, depending on the answer to each of those questions, could indicate that the man you are evaluating is possibly a law-breaking and intrinsically-injurious pederast or sex criminal or pedophile.

Among the questions you might want to ask yourself about that adult man---questions that could yield insights for you about whether to yourself permit that adult man to have any current or future involvement of any type with your own child, and whether you might even want to consider reporting any tentative suspicions of yours about that adult man to a law-enforcement agency---are:

---Is the adult man someone who has ever consumed any quantity of any illicit drug at any time in the most recent previous 24-month (two-year) period?

--When you observe that adult man interacting with your child in your presence, do the terms "dirty old man" or "Pederastic Pied Piper" ever spontaneously pop into your head?

---Does the word "debauchery" ever come to mind for you when you reflect on that man's personal reputation from his alleged conduct toward younger persons?

---Do you have any reason to suspect that the adult man is an illicit drug dealer or has any ties to organized crime, such as to any illicit prostitution ring?

--Is the adult man someone addicted to any licit drug or any licit drugs?

--If you yourself have ever visited that adult man's residence, did you observe any marijuana bong or other drug paraphernalia anywhere inside that private residence during your visit?

---Do you see any factual evidence from the skin or fingernails of that adult man that he possibly has a current addiction to one or more illicit drugs?

---If you yourself have ever visited that adult man's residence, or if a friend of yours who has a good record for accuracy and honesty has, was there any evidence that the adult man in question keeps any candy jar that he himself possibly owns either full or near-full with candy on a year-round basis inside his residence?

---Is the adult man someone who has consumed any drinking alcohol on at least one occasion in the most recent previous 24-month (or two-year) period?

--Is the adult man ever reportedly inebriated or under the influence of any illicit drug during any of his phone conversations, in-person meetings, or in-person conversations with your child?

---Have you yourself ever directly observed that adult man engaging in any conduct or activity at that time that you yourself knew to be in violation of the law.

---If you and your child have ever visited that adult man's residence, did that man exhibit an inordinately keen interest in showing one or more nude paintings of his to your child?

--Have you yourself ever observed that adult man abruptly grabbing a child (or an adult person, for that matter) in an impulsive or forceful manner after that adult man has become intoxicated from consumption of alcohol?

--Are you aware of, or have you heard about, any occasion in the most recent previous 10-year period in which that adult man ever at any time laid a hand on anyone, regardless of that individual's age, with impropriety or incivility.

---Is the adult man someone who was ever in any prior year previously addicted to either illicit drugs or alcohol? In other words, is he currently a recovering former illicit-drug addict or a recovering alcoholic?

---Does the adult man lead a bar-centered or nightclub-centered lifestyle?

---Do you have any reason to suspect or believe that that adult man has on his own initiative directly asked any single person in the most recent 12-month period if that latter individual would agree to have, or would be willing to have, mutual-consent carnal relations or mutual-consent sex with that adult man?

---Does the adult man in question repeatedly state or indicate that he believes he has "discovered the Fountain of Youth" in his own life, with that adult man possibly also declaring that he believes that he himself has "become biologically younger" in recent years.

---Does that adult man frequently complain that he was himself "robbed of my (that adult man's) youth" because of citedly unfair circumstances in his own life, and for that cited reason he hopes to "recover" for himself the youthful vitality he claims to have enjoyed during his early childhood or adolescent years?

--Does that adult man frequently get described by others as being "immature" and "irresponsible" and "sophomoric" in his own conduct?

---Does the adult man in question appear to be obsessed with every two to three years trading in his own motor vehicle, no matter how reliable it has been for him, for a brand-new motor vehicle in factory-mint condition that sparkles with the luster of newness.

---When that adult man orders lamb as a customer in a restaurant, do you observe that he is particularly insistent about himself ordering for his entree a "baby lamb," with himself praising it as "more tender" than older lamb?

---Does the adult man occasionally indicate that he regards himself as being "ageless" and "godlike" and "immortal," with that adult man then also insinuating that because of his own quasi-divine stature, as he sees it, he is himself "free" or "divinely empowered" to conduct himself as he wishes with "mere mortals," as he possibly regards all other human beings.

---Does that adult man state or indicate that he identifies extensively with the Greek God Zeus, who reportedly pursued virgin maidens in a relentless manner.

---Does that adult man state or indicate that he identifies extensively with the Greek God of Wine and Festivity, Dionysus?

---Do you have any reason to suspect that the adult man in question is sexually promiscuous and engages in indiscriminate sexual activity with a wide variety of sex partners?

---Do you have any reason to believe that the adult man in question has been so unconscionable in his sexual practices that in the last 20-year-period he has either impregnated at least one girl or single woman out of wedlock, or he has himself infected at least one of his own sex partners with a sexually transmitted disease of any type.

--Do you yourself observe any medical evidence, or have you heard any report from another parent, indicating that the adult man currently has a sexually transmitted disease of any type, and, in addition, that either "Misery Loves Company" or "It is better to give than to receive" is a favorite saying of that adult man?

--Do you have any reason to suspect that the adult man in question has ever been committed to confinement in, or has voluntarily been admitted into, any psychiatric institution, or any psychiatric-care unit of a hospital, at any time in the last 15-year period?

--Does the word "deranged" or "volatile" come to mind for you when you attempt to describe that adult man in your journal observations about himself?

---Do you have any reason to suspect that the adult man in question patronizes or frequents any commercial sex parlors or any gay bathhouses where sexual activities in public places reportedly occur.

---Do you have any reason to suspect that the adult man exhibits a contempt for strictly platonic personal relationships in life, and that he fails to adequately acknowledge that 99 percent to 100 percent of all personal relationships in life are, in fact, platonic (non-sexual) in nature?

---Does the adult man ever talk about his "romantic fantasies" or his own "sex life" or "my (that man's) sexual conquests" within earshot of, or while speaking directly to, your child?

---Does that adult man react to news stories about Roman Catholic priests convicted of pederastic crimes by himself making a statement such as, "Those priests obviously didn't do enough to hide the evidence, which explains why those priests got caught at it."

---Does the adult man own any artworks or other items on display inside his private residence or his workplace, for that matter, that highlight the female hymen?

--Does the adult man appear to look upon or refer to other human beings as "objects" or "things" or "possessions" of his or "toys" of his?

--Does that adult man strike you as being either "materialistic" or "very materialistic"?

---Does the adult man, such as through his body language and style of speaking, come across as physically intimidating or psychologically intimidating to your child or to other youths?

---Do you sense that your child appears to be afraid of the adult man in question? Have you asked your child why he or she appears to be afraid of that adult man?

---Does that adult man sometimes speak with a slang or argot that's readily identifiable as being sexually-motivated, sexually-obsessed, sexually-explicit, and sexually predatory on his part.

---Does that adult man have a history of being fired from one or more positions of employment because he allegedly sexually harassed a coworker?

--Does the adult man only rarely praise the intellect or creative talents or speaking skills or locution or manners of most of the persons under age 17, for instance, whom that adult man interacts with?

---Does the adult man frequently pursue gambling involving the expenditure of money on his part?

---Do you have reason to suspect that that adult man has ever reportedly invited a youth to "join me (that adult man) for a game of strip poker," or some other form of illicit gambling, regardless of whether any expenditure of money by the youth in that "game" was initially requested by that adult man.

---Does that adult man ever invite a minor to attend a party or other social event to be hosted by that adult man, only to have the minor after arriving at the "party" or "social event" site be informed by the host that all of the other "invited party guests," or some such wording, had "canceled last minute" or "weren't able to attend," according to that adult male host.

---Does that adult man exhibit an all-controlling style toward any child or adult person (regardless of that person's age) in which that adult man attempts to keep any individual "isolated" or "alone" or "solitudinous," and that adult man also attempts to deprive any individual of his or her human and legal right to pursue and enjoy a full social life, including a full strictly-platonic social life, in a context involving mutual consent relationships, and, in the case of a child, in a context involving prior consent by that child's parent as well.

---Have you observed from that adult man's involvement in your child's life thus far that the adult man in question has thus far failed to directly and in person introduce your child to numerous honorable and law-abiding prospective new friends, including prospective new friends of the same approximate age as your child.

---Do you have any reason to suspect that the adult man in question has ever failed to fully and promptly acknowledge another person's verbalized rejection of himself.

---Does that adult man ever state in conversations with yourself that "I (that man) won't take 'no' for an answer" and "I refuse to ever take orders from any work supervisor or anyone else."

---Does the adult man appear to flaunt his own financial wealth, such as by owning and driving a luxurious sedan that might greatly impress your child.

---Does that adult man frequently remind one youth or another that "you owe me some money," with the adult man stating to that male youth that the financial debt incurred by that youth to that adult man "could be repaid through some other means," or words to that effect.

---Does that adult man appear to be obsessed with power in the manner in which he interacts with other people?

--Would you characterize that adult man exhibiting a ruthlessly authoritarian personal style or career-related style?

---Does the adult man express contempt for religion, and also indicate that he himself is either an atheist or an agnostic or an anarchist or libertarian or Playboy or libertine?

---Do you have any reason to suspect that the adult man in question has been, or currently is, a dues-paying member of, or affiliated with, a notoriously dishonorable non-profit group---a group such as the infamous "North American Man/Boy Love Association," or NAMBLA, that's reportedly headquartered both in New York City, New York, and San Francisco, Calif.---that in an illicit manner condones the sex crime of pederasty and advocates annulment of laws that currently prohibit pederasty.

---Does that adult man ever state or boast to your child that that adult man has himself ever been a paying customer of an illicit prostitute at any time.

---Does the adult man emphasize his own cited need for "privacy rights" on a frequent basis, and does he exhibit a lack of sociability or gregariousness or friendliness toward the vast majority of all adult persons whom he encounters?

---Does the adult man have a reputation for having previously established personal relationships or mentoring relationships with children and other minors, and of having several of those intergenerational relationships end very abruptly and under circumstances that called into question that adult man's own integrity.

---Does the adult man ever indicate that he seeks to have a citedly "spiritual" or "religious" meeting alone with your child in order to receive "confidential confessions" from your child?


---Does the adult man ever indicate a desire on his part to "convert" or "enlist" or "recruit" your child to any cited cause or ideology or religious or political belief or lifestyle practice?

--Does the adult man admit or state or boast that he himself has "sinned," or that he himself "tends to be mischievous," in comments he makes that are overheard by, or are directly addressed to, your child?

--Does the adult man have a reputation for pulling pranks on others?

--Does the adult man have a reputation for "pulling surprises" on others?

--Is the adult man someone who currently consumes any tobacco products?

--Have you ever observed or heard about that adult man allegedly breaking the law by purchasing some cigarettes in a store and then giving or selling any minor one or more of those cigarettes?

--Does the adult man appear to exhibit any tendency toward abrasiveness or volatility, or any tendency to snap at you or your child with anger, if you or your child makes or make a comment to that adult man that he dislikes or objects to.

--Is the adult man someone who ever verbalizes profane or obscene language of his own or ever swears in the presence of your child or yourself?

---Does that adult man ever shoot the finger in an obscene manner as a way of showing contempt for, or defiance of, or hostility toward, one or more other persons?

---Does that adult man laugh delightedly at comments made by your child that the adult man appears to regard as risque "Freudian slips" or "clever double entendres" involving apparent sexual "innuendos," even when you yourself do NOT regard your child's comment that way and you feel confident that your child had NOT intended to make a sexually suggestive comment to that adult man.

---Does that adult man ever joke about sex crimes, such as pederasty or "pedophilia," or about sexual predators or rapists, or about "illicit sex" or "bestiality," for that matter, in any context, regardless of whether those "jokes" are verbalized within earshot of a youth under age 17 or 18.

---Does that adult man ever boast or joke about his having ever once participated in a sex orgy at any time in his own life?

---When the adult man in question praises your child, are that adult man's words of praise for your child generally focused on physical attributes of your child ("lovely eyes," "beautiful hair," "lovely skin complexion," "nice body," etc.).

---When the adult man gazes at your child, does that adult man ever appear to be gazing intently at your child's breasts or lips or midsection or behind?

---Does the adult man indicate that he approves of nudism and nudity, and that he regards nudism and nudity as being "very natural," as he might put it in a comment overheard by your child.

---Does the adult man in question have any history of voluntarily visiting and participating in nudism at any nudist colonies?


---Does that adult man ever "flash" persons of any age group, such as by deliberately and knowingly subjecting those persons to partial or full nudity by himself in a public place?


---Does that adult man have any history of having deliberately and knowingly "flashed" individuals under age 17 or under age 18, respectively, by subjecting them to any display of nudity by himself, whether at a public place or at a private residence.

---Would you describe the facial expression of that adult man when he looks at or gazes at your child as being possibly predatory and aggressive in nature toward your child?

---Would you describe that adult man as exhibiting a domineering or repressively censorious style toward your child?

---Does that adult man exhibit a lack of true and convincing support on his part
for the full Freedom of Speech rights, the full Freedom of Religion rights, the full Freedom of Association rights, and the full Freedom of Assembly rights of your child?

---Does that adult man ever state to you or indicate to you that "I (that adult man) support certain forms of slavery" or that "I (that adult man) am fond of Middle Eastern culture partly because I'm (that adult man) intrigued by slavery, and slavery traditionally was common in the Middle East."

---Does that adult man currently employ any person under age 17, and if so, is that adult man the only work "supervisor" of that under-age employee of his?

---Have you ever observed that adult man suggesting that your child play a cited video game together that features a kidnapping or slavery or sexual assault (rape) or child molestation or any other form of violence or illegal conduct victimizing a character under age 17.

--When that adult man plays a game outdoors with your child, does that adult man suggest that the two of them play "hide and go seek"?

--Does that adult man habitually when speaking to your child refer to the importance of having "secrets," and to that adult man's cited emphasis on "keeping secrets" or "honoring secrets"?

---Does that adult man strike you as possibly being "sly" or "deceitful"?


---Do you have any evidence indicating that the adult man in question is possibly spying on your child, secretly photographing your child, subjecting your child to any form of illegal electronic surveillance, or subjecting your child to any anonymous communications?

---Do you know whether the adult man is sending any E-mail communications to your child that you yourself did not directly pre-authorize and review the content of in advance?

---When the adult man in question is interacting with your child as well as other children in the same room or meeting place, does the adult man in question tend to ignore the other children while being fixated on your own child in a manner that appears to be far from avuncular, paternal, fraternal, or wholesome in nature.

---Does the adult man ever insist on offering your child gifts or presents?

--Does the adult man ever ask you how much allowance money your child receives from you every week or every two weeks or every month?

--Does the adult man express a stated interest in seeking to himself "hire" or "employ" your child in some manner involving that adult man's own "personal supervision" of your child?

--Does the adult man send E-mail letters or notes or handwritten letters to your child on a frequent basis?

--Does the adult man during his leisuretime habitually carry candy such as lollipops with him, and does he often volunteer that he would like to offer your child a lollipop?

--Does the adult man indicate an interest in spending lots of time "alone" with your child?

--Does the adult man indicate on his own volition that he would like to accompany your child on an "outing" involving "just the two of them"?

---Does the adult man emphasize to you that he particularly enjoys or would enjoy going on camping trips with youths?

---Does the adult man indicate that he would like to host a "slumber party" for your child?

--Does the adult man state or suggest to you that he himself feels "like a teenager" or "like a kid" or "young at heart" or "fun-loving" or "pleasure-seeking" or "adventure-seeking," or words to that effect.

---Does the adult man in question sometimes state that he likes to "experiment" a lot as part of his chosen lifestyle?

---Does the adult man frequently declare that "I (that adult man) like to teach young persons" in a manner and context that prompts you to wonder just exactly what he has, in fact, "taught" those young persons.

---Does that adult man profess to have a particular appreciation for young children who "learn best through the tactile method," as that adult man might put it in your presence, with that adult man possibly adding that "I'm (that adult man) also very much that way. I find that I only learn through grabbing and touching and holding an item."

---Does the adult man in question express an abnormally keen interest in carnal acts or physical acts that result in the loss of virginity to a young person?

---Does the adult man convey a lack of interest in learning the EXACT current age of your child.

---Does the adult man frequently or occasionally comment to you or others on how "grown-up" and "how adult" and "how mature" your under-age child is.

---Does the adult man fail to himself sincerely and convincingly deplore the sex crime of pederasty or statutory rape that involves victimization of minors by adult persons?

---Does the adult man extol the cited "virtues" of inter-generational personal relationships without himself ever expressing his deep and sincere concern about intergenerational exploitation of younger persons and law-breaking conduct by the older partner in many of those relationships.

---Does the adult man indicate a lack of interest in the significance of the number 17 or 18, depending on the U.S. state in which that man is residing at the time.

--Does the adult man seek to treat your child to a meal inside a restaurant or cafe that permits either smoking or the sale of alcohol?

--Does the adult man have any facial hair?

--Does the adult man have any tattoos on his body?

--Does the adult man have or wear any ear piercings or nostril rings?

--Does that adult man reportedly wear strong cologne or perfume, even, in the presence of your child?

--Is that adult man observed around town wearing clothing that you as a parent would regard as being either lewd or lascivious or sexually suggestive in nature?

--Does that adult man make frequent verbalized statements to others, or direct statements to your child, about that adult man himself being citedly "gay," as that man might directly refer to himself.

--Does that adult man ever make any comment indicating, or otherwise indicate, that he himself frequently has sex with an "anonymous sex partner"?

--Does that adult man ever make any comment indicating, or otherwise indicate, that he himself has participated in anonymous sex inside a public restroom at any time in his entire life?

--Does that adult man indicate that he hosts and attends lots of "parties" at which consumption of drinking alcohol or marijuana or tobacco products is permitted by himself or some other individual serving as the party host.

--Does that adult man indicate that he regards "marijuana brownies" as being innocuous and not posing a concern to himself?


---Does that adult man when he hosts a party of his own typically invite children and other youths under age 17 to attend, even though alcohol or tobacco products or illicit drugs or licit drugs are being consumed by several or many of the adult participants at that party?

---Is the adult man observably effeminate in his own personal style, including through the body language and locution that he exhibits in an ostentatious or flamboyant manner in the presence of your child.

---Does that adult man make numerous flippant comments in the presence of your child that strike you as being juvenile and irresponsible remarks.

--Does that adult man ever refer to himself having permitted another person to beat or whip himself, or to insert their own fist into his own anus, for instance; or, alternatively, does that adult man ever refer to having himself ever physically beaten or whipped or engaged in "fist-fornication," for instance, with another person at any time.

--Does that adult man ever verbalize speculations to others to the effect that a cited child or teenage youth "might become gay" or "could be manipulated into a gay lifestyle" or "could be bribed into leading a gay lifestyle" or "is already gay," in the stated view of that adult person.

---Does that adult man indicate to you that he himself has any criminal-conviction record? Does any observer of that adult man state to you that that observer suspects that the adult man in question has a cited criminal-conviction record?

---Does that adult man ever fail to drive his or your motor vehicle within the speed limit or ever fail to drive that vehicle in a very prudent manner when you observe that adult man driving himself or your child or anyone else to a cited destination.

---Does that adult man indicate to you that he in any way condones or supports so-called "romantic relationships" involving the physical beating or physical whipping or cited "enslavement" or cited subjugation of one or both partners in those cited "relationships"?

--Does the adult man give any indication that he himself currently owns more than a few X-rated movies inside his home or at his workplace?

--Have you yourself visited the private residence of that adult man? If so, would you characterize it as being so wholesome it's "G-rated," so to speak? Or, to the contrary, would you characterize that adult man's private residence and interior decor as being "shockingly X-rated" or "dismayingly R-rated" in nature.

---When that adult man cracks a joke in front of your child or in front of yourself, does that "joke" ever appear to be a double entendre featuring a sexual innuendo?

---Does that adult man frequently tell "dirty jokes" in front of or within earshot of youths who are under age 17.

---When that adult man smiles at your child, would you characterize that particular smile by that adult man as being closer to a sneer or a leer than a truly appreciative and warm and sincere smile toward your child?

--Does the adult man indicate that he likes to pursue videotaping of youths or taking photographs of youths as one of that adult man's cited hobbies or pastimes?

--Does that adult man spend a lot of his leisuretime at amusement parks and public swimming pools and other public places where youths are often found in a context without full and constant parental supervision of those youths.

---Does that adult man prefer to watch television shows featuring cartoons and other programs specially developed for children?

--Does the adult man indicate that many of his toys and games and reading material items inside his residence relate to sexual themes, with "sex toys," for instance, accounting for many of the items that the man in question collects inside his residence or at his workplace.

--Does the adult man indicate that "Lolita," by Nabokov, is one of the novels that that adult man has read and enjoyed the most?

--Does that adult man indicate that he himself identifies quite a bit with the leading male character in "American Beauty," a Hollywood movie about an American married man who romantically pursues an under-age female high school student.

---Does that adult man ever boast about the citedly large number of young persons who "lost their virginity" because of himself, as that adult man may declare with pride.

--Does that adult man use the term "rite of passage into adulthood" on a frequent basis, and does that adult man also indicate in a suspicious manner that he seeks to introduce youths to what "adulthood feels like."

--Does the adult man in question frequently refer to morality as being "relative" and to ethics as being "situational"?

---Do you have any evidence indicating that that adult man is a habitual or pathological liar?

--Do you know the career or occupation of the man in question, and do you have any reason to suspect that his employer is not wholesome or reputable or diligently law-abiding?

--Do you know of any older male youths or adults who are acquainted with the adult man in question, and who might be willing to offer you candid information about how that adult man conducts himself when interacting with children?

--What do other parents tell you about the level of obedience of the law of that adult man, based on what they have observed of his conduct?

--Does the adult man give any indication that he leads a lifestyle featuring lots of late-night hours after midnight?

--Does that adult man frequently wear sunglasses, including in a context when he's interacting with your child, and you have sometimes wondered whether the wearing of sunglasses was for a purpose other than protecting that adult man from excessive exposure to the sun.

--Do you observe that the pupils of that adult man's eyes appear to dilate whenever he is speaking in person to your child.


----Do you yourself ever observe any apparent protrusion in that adult man's pants emanating from his groin area when you observe him interacting with either your own child or any other under-age youth?

--Has the adult man been observed by you or your friends, or by any law-enforcement officers, frequenting any municipal or county park in your town after sundown?

---Does the adult man frequently rent a hotel room in the same city where he maintains a residence of his own? Would you characterize that hotel as being either seedy or sleezy?

--Does the adult man ever make statements in your presence that strike you as being dishonest or incorrect or contradictory or fraudulent?

--Does the adult man have any criminal-conviction record?

--Do you have any reason to believe that the adult man in question is an illicit "consumer" of "child pornography" in any context?

---Do you have any reason to suspect or believe that the adult man in question spends a lot of his leisuretime as a "customer" inside so-called adult bookstores while reportedly "shopping" for X-rated movies or sex toys to possibly either purchase or rent, or while allegedly searching for a prospective anonymous sex partner from among the other "customers" inside that establishment.

--Do you observe any evidence that the adult man in question does not diligently and promptly report to a law-enforcement agency any factual evidence that adult man ever obtains or receives about a cited incident noted by that man which involved possibly illegal conduct he observed.

--Does the adult man make any statements indicating he believes that individuals can simply "ignore" laws that they don't feel comfortable with?

---Does the adult man indicate that he himself has ever been a "customer" at an illicit house of prostitution, or that he himself supports legalization of prostitution, or that Reno, Nevada, a city where prostitution is reportedly legal, is a favorite city of his to visit?

---Does the adult man make frequent comments about his own admiration of "inter-generational relationships" in any cited context?

--Does the adult man ever make any statements you learn about in which he expressed a contempt for law-enforcement or a contempt for law-enforcement agencies?

--Does the adult man ever indicate that he himself owns a paddle or a whip or a chain, or that he sympathizes in any way with or identifies with sadomasochistic or S&M lifestyles?

--Does the adult man ever state or indicate that he would enjoy "spanking" your child or "being spanked" by your child in any cited context?

---Does the adult man ever indicate that he owns a weapon such as a gun or knife?

--Does the adult man make any statements indicating that he sympathizes with a cited well-publicized pederast (a famous person who reportedly had sex with minors)?

--Does the adult man ever lay a hand on anyone in any context that strikes you as being improper or inappropriate?

--Does the adult man repeatedly insist on "embracing" or "hugging" your child in your presence?

--Does the adult man ever physically touch your child, such as by "accidentally" bumping into" your child or patting your child on the head?

--Has the adult man ever patted your child on the behind, or pinched or grabbed your child without any apparent basis for any such physical contact.

--Does that adult man always pinch an under-age child on St. Patrick's Day, for instance?

--Has the adult man ever asked your child to play a sport or pursue an activity with that adult man that involved considerable physical contact between the two of them, such as might occur from "two-below" football?

--If the adult man in question does ever embrace or hug your child in your presence, do you sense that the embrace or hug involved more total seconds' duration or greater intensity from the adult man than you would regard as having been politely and platonically appropriate?